A few weekends ago, Nathaniel and I took the Birthing From Within birth prep class with Sarah Julisson of
IslandMother.com. It was an informative and empowering 2-day course, spread over 2 weekends - and it was intimate, a far cry from our birth prep weekend 4 years ago with over 30 couples! With Sarah, we were 4 couples - 3 first-timers and us second-timers. I found it a gift to be embraced by the enthusiasm and worry and anticipation of these first-time parent friends, reminding me to bring some of their newness into my second birthing experience ... a coming event that at times is squished between
Dress Me Up and my 3-almost-4 year old.
Sarah's leadership and knowledge was what I needed to let go of some of the challenging aspects of Ruby's labour and delivery in order to prepare fresh for my little one's journey to earthside. Us mamas were invited to create a
birth bundle - a collection of physical objects from home to represent me as mama, my partner, my daughter and my coming baby. I dug into my spiritual pracitices box and found a snake skin, gathered up one hot summer day in the Okanagan desert, and tucked it into the bundle to represent the coming baby ... shedding what I need to of my previous birthing experience, being reborn into life as mama-of-two, acknowledging my itchy scratchy bursting skin, constantly moving with this wiggly inhabitant almost ready to emerge.
The baby is due in a month. Ruby is full of anticipation and curiosity, sharing her knowledge of things like squirrel births,
placentas, vulvas and crying babies (Our baby will cry, right Mama? I will hug her.). As a gift to Ruby, soon to be reborn into life as big-sister, Nathaniel and I are making her her own birth story picture book - a wonderful suggestion from Sarah. We sat down at the computer and went through hundreds of photos from my pregnancy, labour, birth and early months of Ruby's newness. I can't believe how young we were then, in so many ways, and how much we have grown and learned, and come to understand and trust ... knowing so well that there is still much more to come. And not so much time to get the picture book finished! I'd love to hear what things you did to help your first prepare for the arrival of new baby.
Mama and Ruby, October 2006